He Is My First Human Priority!



Good Day Ladies!! Sometimes we forget but, yes our husbands are our first human priority! As of late I have gotten into the habit of breaking my priorities down by numbers. It helps me to organize my time and duties. For instance, God is my main priority and then my husband is human priority numero UNO and my children are priority numero DOS, spiritual growth, relatives, friends, ministry,etc... is further down the list of priorities. So through out my day I am focusing on what I can do to please my first human priority, who is my husband, this is after I have had time with my MAIN priority(God, through Jesus Christ) I wash things, fold things, tidy up things because I know that this pleases my husband. I try and have dinner ready for him or at least know where we will get something to eat from(#don'tjudgeme:) I go through my day thinking of him and what makes him happy. Of course physical intimacy is something that I must prepare myself for in case he desires that. I cannot say I am tired or I don't feel like it. My body belongs to my husband and he can have it anytime he desires! :) (1 Corinthians 7:4)

We must remember that marriage is a gift from God and it is like a garden. Seeds are planted and they must be tended to in order for something beautiful to come forth. Marriages don't make themselves, we must plant seeds of love, faith, hope, etc.. in order to reap such. The bible has told me that I must be obedient to my husband, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. (Titus 2:5) I must be subject to him in all things. This is a hard concept for many wives to follow and it certainly was for me in the beginning. I had no idea how to do these things, but then I met Christ and it was through His word that He showed my how I must go about living and prioritizing my life. It was Christ who showed me that my husband must be number one and I must be submissive to him in ALL things. I now treat my husband with a much deeper reverence than I ever have before. I now see him in another light. I see him the way Christ sees him and that helps me to respect and revere him. Not because he is perfect but because God has placed him in authority over our family. I respect him for who God made him to be and I honor his position in our household. Wives if we make our husbands our first human priority we will see a change in our home environment, you will even see a change in your children. Let us lift up our husbands and even if he is not where you think he should be, that should be more reason for you to pray for him, obey him, and submit to him. God has a way of working things out when we are obedient to Him. If we submit and obey our husbands, we will see them rise to the occasion and become the men God desires them to be! We will see a change in our men, if we would allow God to change us within!

Verses to Chew: Ephesians 5:22-24, Titus 2:4-5, 1 Peter 3:1-6

Encouraging Leadership from Your Husband



But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God." 1 Cor. 11:3


This verse, along with a few others, prove to us wives that our husbands are to be our, "Fearless Leaders." We go through a process of coming to Christ and learning our role as wives. If it were laid out in a 5 step program it might look something like this:

1. Redemption
2. Learning our roles as wives
3. Reverence for our husband
4. Submission to our husband
5. Letting our husband lead in everything

It's interesting how the enemy uses the same lie on each of us, and I'm going to guess that at some point, each of us have believed one or both. When we learn that we wives are to "submit in everything to [our] husbands," (Ephesians 5:24) this is the lie we hear:

"You will be a doormat. Surely God didn't say, 'in everything.'"

But when we come to the point that we reject that lie, and we truly want to be that joyful, submissive wife, "in everything," it's then that we hear the other lie:

"You surely are an amazing woman of the Lord. Just look at yourself, submitting to that wishy-washy man of yours. He really isn't much of a leader, is he? He doesn't even read the Bible to the family, and when he does he doesn't do it right. You need to take control here, for your family's sake."

We must recognize this deception as just that, deception.

For Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. 1 Timothy 2:14

Once we see the lie, we can overcome. We can be the godly, encouraging wife. And we can actually assist our husbands in their call to lead our families. A major road block for our husbands not taking leadership as we had hoped they would lies with us.

Yes, us. We wives can actually hinder our husband's progress in this area.

In order to encourage our husbands to lead, we.must.let.them.lead.in.everything.

We need to let our guys take the lead.

"But I've tried that!" you say. "He just won't lead! So, somebody has to do it."

If wives were to step back and actually let the men lead, after a while, they would. It may take years, long long years. But it is not only essential, it is commanded.

Here are a few of the most common complaints, with my suggestions in parenthesis:

• "He finally decided we'd go to church as a family, but he won't pick a church." (That's ok, just stay home.)
• "My husband won't lead us in Bible reading." (He may try again if he knows you won't correct him.)
• "My husband won't make any decisions, he can't even decide where to go on vacation." (That's ok too, if he doesn't pick some place, he has chosen to stay home.)
• "My husband just doesn't care to lead, he's too busy with work." (Pray for him!! Continue to follow any lead he does take, and be supportive.)

Wives play such an important role here, and many don't realize it. Men desire their wives to be true help meets. They need our encouragement!! Be his cheerleader! They need our respect too. We make it difficult for them to be the godly leaders if we are often critizing them to our friends or family.

And ladies, I've just got to say it, they need us alone! We must make time for our husbands without the children around. Not always just in an intimate, physical way, but to just be with them, talking, spending time together.

Here's a little story I'd like to share:

Several years ago we had a fish tank with 1 single male guppie. He was the fancy kind. And boy was he pretty!! After a week or so, we decided to get a few females as we knew they would breed and thought it would be a good science experiment.

You should have seen Mr. Guppie when we dropped in those females!! He would swim past with his fins fanned out and upright. And just as he got within cenemeters of her he would flutter those fins! It was a sight to behold.

He would do this for hours on end! And she would act as if she didn't even see him!! Oh, I felt so bad for that little fish sometimes! But when he saw just a spark of interest from her, just a hint that maybe she noticed him, then watch-out-world because that little guppy looked like he was ready to take on anything! Just for her!

In the world of guppies he wanted to be her fearless leader. In the world of people, husbands do want to lead their wives, and they would do so joyfully, if only we would cooperate.

*courtesy of http://www.timewarpwife.com/*

Don't Become a Husband Watcher!



I was thinking today on how we are always trying to tell somebody else how to do their job. We are constantly sweeping around someone else's door. I wonder why we feel the need to do this? I want to apply this to being a HUSBAND WATCHER. Do you know what that is? It's a woman who knows what her husband is supposed to do and be and instead of taking care of her own faithfulness to her God designed role she takes on the self appointed role of playing "Holy Spirit" in her husband's life, pointing out all his faults and weaknesses. She even haults her own obedience to the Lord, because of her "when...then" attitude. "When he does this, then I'll do that!"

Ladies we should know better than that. We cannot believe that God is pleased with such behavior. You are not your husband's Holy Spirit. You are his wife and God has given you a role to play and instead of watching out for all that he is not doing, make sure you are doing what God assigned you to do. There is nothing wrong with being aware of our husband's responsibilities, but if he is not meeting his God given role then pray for him instead of bashing him. Lift him up before the Lord. Don't constantly nag him about what he isn't doing. Who wants to live in the house with a nagging wife?? The bible says that it is better to dwell on the roof top than in the house with a nagger. (Proverbs 21:19)

So search your hearts dear wives and instead of rating our husbands, let's check our own score in the Wife Department. How do you fare?  Do what you do as unto the Lord and you will reap your reward from Christ Jesus.

Happy Homemaking!!